Resilience
Short personal resilience programme
This short personal resilience programme will help you strengthen your resilience. It will take about 60 minutes to complete.
Resilience is all about your capacity and ability to rise up to and overcome challenging and potentially stressful events without experiencing stress yourself.
Some aspects of resilience are personality dependent whilst others are skills determined.
All elements can be learnt and strengthened.
You will be in greater control of yourself and your environment, and feel the confidence and have the attitude to rise up to challenges and overcome them.
Sound good? Let’s get started on your resilience journey.
Resilience is all about you. This programme has the capacity to help you understand who you are and what you can do to become more resilient, confident and positive about life and work but only if you have an open mind and are prepared to work at making some very personal changes.
There is no magic wand. It takes time to change habits and the way that we behave.
You will need to think deeply about yourself (which might be new for you) and the exercises and re-visit the thinking frequently
Derek Mowbray
BA., MSc., MSc(Econ)., PhD., DipPsych., CPsychol., CSci., FBPsS., FIHM., FISMA.
Derek Mowbray is a Chartered Psychologist who specialises in the prevention of stress, and the improvement in the psychological wellbeing of people at work. He has held top leadership positions in all sectors prior to turning his attention to helping organisations and people prevent stress in the workplace.
This programme has been created to provide individuals with the insight and tools to strengthen their personal resilience.
If you would like to understand more about the psychology of resilience, we have provided a document in pdf format for you to download at the end of the programme.
We use a framework built around 8 elements that are known to have the greatest impact on resilience, split into 3 groups:
Mini personal resilience quiz
Here’s a mini questionnaire to get you thinking. There is one question for each of the 8 elements.
No information arising from the completion of this questionnaire is stored, or distributed. No cookies are used. This process is for your eyes only, so be honest with yourself.
Remember to record them, you can come to the assessment as often as you like - if you act on the tips and advice, you should see your scores improving.
Any score of 3 and below indicates that you need to strengthen that element of personal resilience.
Now let’s look at each of the 8 elements in turn.
Each element consists of a very brief assessment of your score some techniques for you to practise and some tips to help you make those all important changes
Click on the button below to start of with Self awareness.
First - Self awareness
‘Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power’
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The more you understand yourself and who you are, the more you feel confidence in yourself and your abilities, and the better you understand others.
Resilience comes from understanding your own achievements, successes and where you’ve come unstuck before and learning from the experience
Write down 5 bullet points about how you think others perceive you?
Write down 5 bullet points on why you are so fabulous!
Do they match? if not:
Create a “Brand You” – write a resume that tells the world how great you are.
Reflect on it and remind yourself how great you are at times when you are feeling down.
Always think and believe you are a fabulous person.
You’ve completed the first of four elements of personal control over yourself.
Next - Determination
‘As long as you’re going to think anyway, you may as well think big’
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Determination is essentially self-driven by your core values. The more determined you are, the easier it is to overcome challenges successfully and the more resilient you become.
The core values that you hold as an individual will drive you forward; they will help you when you are faced with dilemmas or ethical decisions; they help generate a determination to see things through. They are central to your personal resilience.
For example, they could be to be knowledgeable and wise, to take responsibility and ownership for anything you do, to be independent – free to follow your dream, to be recognised for what you do, to have power.
Think about your core values. Write down 3 core values that you hold dear.
Think about what good things you would like people to say about you at your retirement party, which make you feel you’ve been properly recognised for who you think you are.
Do the comments you receive link closely to your own values? If not, you have time to do something about it.
Once you know your core values and drivers, use them to guide and steer you through challenges and challenging decisions.
you’ve completed the second of four elements of personal control over yourself
Next - Vision
‘If you don’t know where you’re going you will probably end up somewhere else’
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Having a clear idea of what you would like to achieve in your life will make you more resilient in your attitude to the everyday ups and downs in life. The vision itself might be blurred; it should not be time constrained, but it should be feasible to achieve.
It really helps to write this down, and review the vision from time to time, particularly when events seek to divert your effort away from achieving the vision.
Write down 2 things you really, really want to do with your life.
Envisage your life in 5 years’ time and write down the key things that you envisage will be different (apart from being older, of course!).
Always think and believe you can achieve the big things in life because you can and will.
you’ve completed the third of four elements of personal control over yourself
Next - Self confidence
‘Ever notice that ‘what the hell’ is sometimes the right decision? Go on, take the plunge!’
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Self-confidence comes from controlling your own anxiety, which can be experienced when encountering something new. Once a new experience has been handled successfully, it is added to your ‘resilience reservoir’ of good stuff. This helps you to be less anxious when the next similar experience comes along.
If you feel confident, you can resiliently tackle anything you wish.
Write down 3 good moments where you have felt a sense of achievement, having successfully tackled something challenging.
Reflect on them if you are feeling low or under-confident. They will help you tell yourself ‘hey – I can do this!’
Your brain will pick up on it and your confidence will shine through.
Breathe in for 6 seconds, hold for 12 and breathe out over 6 seconds.
Try doing things you struggle with or avoid doing. For example:
you’ve completed the fourth of four elements of personal control over yourself
Next - Organisation
‘If everything is under control you’re not going fast enough’
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If you keep control of yourself at times of chaos, you’ll get through it. Resilient people know how to manipulate chaos and sort out priorities into a structured day. You will be in control, less stressed and your achievements can be clearly observed.
168 are the hours in a week. There are no more, no less, hours available to us. Scribble down all the things you have to do in the week and all the things you would like to do. Below are some examples.
Work out where your time is going and what you can do to turn your day into a more structured time, enabling you to achieve what you want to achieve and maybe make way for a few new things to do as well.
Last thing at night, make a list of the things you need to do tomorrow. Put the ‘big task’ at the top. In the morning, do the first item on the list – if it’s a large project, do the first bite-sized chunk. Then, give yourself a reward before doing the second item on your list.
Work intensively for 50 minutes in the hour and then do something different to let your brain cool down and recover before starting the next 50 minutes of intensive work.
you’ve completed the first of two elements of personal control over events
Next - Problem solving
‘Some people take no mental exercises apart from jumping to conclusions’
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Learn to enjoy the challenge of unravelling and solving problems! Solving problems becomes an achievement which adds to your resilience reservoir and will help you become more resilient and able to solve anything that’s thrown at you - and enjoy the experience!
ADAPT is an approach to problem solving that is useful in most situations
Think of a problem you are currently wrestling with and apply this framework to it.
Approach problems with a positive attitude.
you’ve completed the second of two elements of personal control over events
Next - Interaction
‘If you always approach everyone with cheerful optimism, you will find that they simply have no choice but to respond in kind’
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Interaction is the process of persuading others to do what you want them to do. The process of persuasion requires you to understand the self-interest of others – if someone feels their self-interest is being served, they tend to reciprocate and serve your self-interest. To get the best from interaction with others, you need to learn how to persuade them to do things they might otherwise not wish to do, without causing distress.
The Assertive Message enables you to talk to anyone, at any time, about anything without causing stress.
Think of an interaction you need to have in the near future. Practice applying these steps and write down the words you will use. You will need to practice it a few times so that you are comfortable with the approach.
An example would go like this:
Never ever link Step 1 and 2 with 'but' or 'however' as this negates the power of the compliment or recognition of the other person which is a vital aspect of the assertive message.
Get to know how you appear to others. Practice in the bathroom mirror. How do you look? Are your eyes smiling?
Be attentive to yourself. Talk to yourself positively in the mirror about the day ahead. Say, out loud ‘ Good morning’ to yourself. ‘Today’s going to be a great day, full of interesting experiences’.
you’ve completed the first of two elements of personal control over response to people.
Finally - Relationships
‘Relationships are the bedrock of survival’
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We need successful relationships to assist us to achieve what we want. In the workplace, we need strong relationships that help us achieve success and happiness.
A great way to build successful relationships is to agree mutual expectations with those at work with whom you have strong and important relationships.
Think of 4 people with whom you have a close working relationship – ask each person what are their expectations of you; in return tell them your expectations of them.
Always be attentive to other people.
you’ve completed the second of two elements of personal control over response to people.
Conclusion
Thank you for completing this programme. I hope you’ve found it helpful in providing insights to strengthen your resilience.
It takes time to embed ideas into your normal routine.
The way to ensure you adopt fresh thoughts and ideas is to go through the programme several times, say on a monthly basis.
If you can share your thoughts and ideas with others who’ve completed this programme you’ll find this helps to embed any ideas or thoughts more deeply.
More information ?
Anyone wishing to complete the in-depth programme should email
info@mas.org.uk
If you are suffering from stress, email Mental Health First Aid
info@mas.org.uk
If you would like more background information to the psychology behind the programme, you can download our guide here:
The Psychology of Personal Resilience
The MAS Guide to Personal Resilience has more exercises. If you wish to purchase a copy, please go to the MAS web site at
www.mas.org.uk
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